disorganized relationship distress

Disorganized Distress

Is your family experiencing disorganized distress?

Those of us who count as professional organizers know well the resulting distress of disorganization. Some are calling asking to help their partner become more in tune with the household needs in regards to keeping possessions in check.

We’ve all felt it — the closing-in feeling that arises when your kitchen counters are covered, your hallway is clogged, and you can’t find anything. You tell yourself it’s time to get organized-for the thousandth time. You may feel anxious and overwhelmed. If this is the case, chances are the clutter and chaos in your home are impacting you at a deeper level. What can you do about it?

The Impact

A cluttered home or workspace impacts your physical health. It produces fire hazards, dust, and mold. Some studies have even shown a link between excess clutter and excess weight. The disease of clutter affects your food choices and makes you more likely to choose unhealthy foods over healthier options. And then, disorganization and clutter have been known to negatively impact your personal relationships.

Relationships disorganized distress

Some partners buy too much not only depleting the bank account but also crowding the space meant to be for repose from the wild world we live in collecting 2-3 of everything they encounter. Some can’t stop picking up roadside “treasures” which become burdens on their partners. Many know they have a problem but, because the problem of too much stuff is relatively new to the middle-aged population, have difficulty addressing the problem.

What keeps you from getting organized?

Even if you know disorganized in your home is stressing you out, it doesn’t make it easy to remedy. Several factors contribute to your disorganization. Analyzing your situation will help you pinpoint them and allow you to correct them. some common ones include:

  • You’ve never really been organized before and its hard to imagine what you have never felt before.
  • You have too much stuff and never learned how to declutter and edit your belongings.
  • A career, family life, and other obligations makes organization end up at the bottom of your to-do list.
  • You have a disorder listed in the DSM and need specialized treatments from a variety of practitioners.

Benefits of getting organized

Just knowing your are experiencing disorganized distress probably isn’t enough to motivate you to attack it. Maybe knowing some benefits of organization might provide some motivation. Here are some of the benefits:

  • Improves sleep
  • Reduces stress
  • Improves your relationships
  • Frees up time and energy to improve your life in other areas
  • Reduces depression and anxiety
  • Allows you to make better food choices and apply yourself to a workout regime helping you lose weight
  • Increases your productivity

Some Tips

If you finally committed to tackling the disorganized distress you just need to decide where to start. Firstly, gather supplies like trash bags and cardboard boxes. Set aside ample time but not so much it leaves you feeling tired and overwhelmed. Or plan to organize in small blocks of time regularly by putting it on your schedule weekly. Consistency is key here.

  1. Pull everything out of the space to be organized. If you’re organizing your closet, empty the closet not o a bed or another spaces that allows you to see everything. 
  2. Clean the shelves.
  3. Sort all items in the following categories:
    • Trash (or recycling).
    • Donate.
    • Sell. If you make this category, make sure you have items worth the while because it takes some time to list an item in FaceBook Marketplace or Craigslist. Be realistic with yourself. You can donate it instead.
    • Keep. If you use it or love it, put it back in the closet. 
    • Undecided. Not sure what to do with something? Put off the decision until the end of sorting and see if you can make a decision. If not, put it in a box dated in six months and if you don’t use an item in six months it’s a good sign you can let it go.

If you simply can’t do the before mentioned on your own, ask an organized friend or hire a professional organizer to help. As you focus on being organized, your physical and mental health will improve. You’ll feel more empowered over the place that should be a place of peace and productivity. Most importantly your home relationships will improve dramatically.

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Interested to learn more about hiring a professional organizer? Check out this New York Times article!

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