It is rare I get called to help a family and learn nothing about their personal lives. The things of our world are all tied to some meaning tied to the current day, past or future.
We all relate to our things and spaces differently. Here the phrase ‘It takes a village’ is attributed to the African proverb, “Omwana takulila nju emoi” or the Native Americans meaning “A child does not grow up only in a single home,” can be applied to adults as well. An entire community of people must interact with children and most adults for them to grow in a safe and healthy environment. And then there is the book “It Takes a Village” written by Hillary Clinton.
Asking for Help
Fielding both parental responsibilities and maintaining a career most especially for single parent households is not an easy thing to do. Many American children are already facing hardships ,disconnectedness and isolation from too much social media use and due to other difficulties at home.
For obvious reasons people are ashamed to ask for help. For some, just the idea of getting parenting help from our friends or community often feels like we’re not good enough. The person reaching out to ask if a friend needs help can be very sensitive because we may fear we’ll come off as telling them how to parent. While asking for help is difficult, and can challenge self esteem — that stubborn part of your ego that believes we can do anything — it can also make you stronger, more successful, and more confident.
The fact is none of us are born complete but there are ways to access the things we are missing by our interaction with other people. One of us is tidy and the other is a clutter bug. One person needs their things viewable at a glance while others prefer to lock it behind closed doors. Something special to one person means nothing to another and boundaries are crossed.
It’s no wonder to me that people who don’t happen to have great organizing skills get easily lost in their things. We are pulled in so many directions that if it’s a weak spot in someone’s life it will compound itself without attention. Unfortunately that often leads to shame. Many people don’t know that home organizing is a “thing”. They don’t know that on the other side of town someone’s cluttered home is being made calm and productive again with the help of a professional organizer.
Sinking in Chaos
Not knowing that others are tapping into this opportunity they spiral downwards in the murky waters of a mess in a place where they are suppose to seek solace to recharge for the world again. Sometimes a partner brings in the organizer for the other partner without having asking for one. You can imagine how delicate one must tread when a home altering element is being welcomed by one member of the family and feared by another. I know that there is no reason to have shame of a cluttered home but most take on the feelings anyway.
Sometimes a Professional Organizer IS “the village”.
Juggling all this makes professional organizing a dynamic career encompassing many things never expected at the onset. That’s why I liked the comic by Kelly Kamowski who exhibits how a Professional Organizer can serve in many ways to adults who successfully reach out for help. The organizer can serve in many ways: a project leader, a time manager, a cleaning person, a 3-D puzzle whiz, an accountability partner, a life coach, someone who pays great attention to detail.
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